homemaker
Image: Multitasking Homemaker

Sometimes life sucks. Especially when you are 50 plus.

You know it, I know it, and everyone else knows it.

Sometimes you feel overwhelmed by problems. Yours or your loved ones’.

The stress strikes from everywhere.

You almost feel paralyzed, and suddenly you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, any longer.

You would eventually give anything in exchange to escape from under that heaviness.

You need a tool to set you free.

Well… these are the moments when you should meditate.

Meditation is not about fashion, nor trend or brand.

Meditation is the tool which if used correctly, can send you directly to the root of all your problems. And by going there, you have the chance to heal it.

Meditation is an art, a science and ultimately a way of living.

We can write thousands of books about it and still its core will not be fully revealed.

There are almost infinite ways of approaching meditation, and this depends on each one’s perception and level of awareness.

Still, there are also many common elements. One of them belongs to the preparation phase.

Yes, you need to have a proper preparation before you start meditating.

Therefore, no matter what steps are guiding you in your meditation, let’s talk about the first step you should do to have a successful meditation.

Well…

Meditation in Silent place
Image: Silent place

Everyone knows that to meditate properly, you should find a place where you won’t be disturbed. Easy to say, hard to do.

I remember, a day long ago when I was still not able to instantly enter into a meditative phase and any external disturbances would annoy me greatly.

On that day, my intention was to allow myself to meditate for a while. I prepared well; I turned off any of the potential sources of noise around me, I deeply relaxed my entire body, when… when a sudden noise knocked me out from my meditative stage.

It was such a brutal moment that for the rest of that day, a persistent migraine almost knocked me down. Moreover, my blood pressure went through the roof for several minutes. Enough to scare me and to doubt my physical condition.

Maybe you will wonder what kind of noise could disturb me when I just said that I turned off any possible sources of sound.

Well… it was that kind of sound which doesn’t depend on your will.

I was living in an apartment situated in a building with all sorts of neighbors. Therefore, their habits were of many types. The neighbor who was living on the upper floor was the homemaker type. For this reason, you can imagine that she was cooking a lot.

On that day, I have no idea how but, exactly when I was perfectly relaxed and probably ready to enter into a deep trance, she dropped her cooking pot on the floor; and this pot must have been made of steel… at least it was evident to me by the monstrous sound that hit my entire being.

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Image: Housewife’s cooking pot

I bet, you don’t want to imagine how I felt when the same neighbor started to vacuum her house. Of course… on another day, exactly in the middle of my meditation.

 

What else should I comment on?

To conclude, before starting your meditation, find a place where nothing, and I mean nothing, can disturb you. Otherwise, you will only pretend that you’re meditating.

Not that this is a bad thing. Who knows, maybe the “fake it till you make it” will work for you.

But if you want to master your meditation technique, especially when you are still a beginner, do it in an entirely silent place.

You are a beginner, isn’t it so? If not, I invite you to share with us your experiences towards your place of meditation. And no matter whether you are a master who deeply knows how to handle your meditation process or a beginner, I invite you to subscribe for updates . Today we covered only the first step. 🙂

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3 COMMENTS

  1. Oh, yes, Simon, I total agree with you – “you should find a place where you won’t be disturbed. Easy to say, hard to do”.
    I live with my family in a small apartment and there’s almost always someone around; plus a dog, plus a cat and all sort of neighbors. Plus a shelling from time to time and finding a quiet place is a challenge indeed. I use earplugs and it works, ok [sometimes works] LOL.
    Well, a meditation should become your good habit at all. The 1st 3 months were hard for me. I often caught myself on the thought like, what the hell had I been doing it? What’s a purpose of the meditation? Just cut to the chase, after 4 months, I can’t say the meditation has already become my daily habit.

  2. Hilarious. I wonder if the universe is trying to tell you something (or your neighbor)? I used to get really frustrated with noise – I still do but in a different way.

    I don’t meditate often. Here’s something that you might find interesting: As I was reading your article my reminder to Meditate went off on my phone. ^_^ That was a jolt as I was thoroughly enjoying your story.

    For now, I try to meditate at least 1-minute to 5-minutes a day. Early in the morning I have a quiet time before I start my day which lasts about 1-hour. I use a meditation app to help me.

  3. Hiya MC…you are spot on, having guided so many peeps in bringing mindful meditation into their lives I get them to start with silence/quiet…it gives them opportunity to be less distracted…as time moves on and peeps develop then I introduce sounds/noise/walking/shopping/eating etc. No music, that is a tool for relaxation…..in mindful meditation we need a relaxed body and an alert mind. Remember we are aiming to achieve a state where we are mindful & mindful is us….total embedded habit….Dx

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